sometimes I feel horrendously sad and then last night while on the phone my boyfriend sent me all his favourite pictures of me so I guess I’m not sad anymore
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evil infodumping where you just tell lies
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Being overstimulated is such a weird thing to explain to people. Like “hey sorry, I’m not mad at you and this is nobody’s fault and I’m not blaming anyone for it happening, I am aware this is a part of regular everyday life but I am mentally crumbling because There Have Been Things Happening nonstop for 5 hours straight back to back with no breaks, and I really need to sit down in complete silence for like 15-25 minutes, after which I will be completely fine and can proceed as normal. But if I’m not allowed to have that, I will resort to violence.”
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You can have the intimacy down-packed but if the LOVE- the sacrifice, the commitment, the patience, the strength to endure isn’t there- all that beautiful sex, irreplaceable moments of cuddling and feeling goosebumps and butterflies, nice flowers and love letters, etc means nothing. It can be the same reversed- you can find someone who is capable and strong and commited and patient and succesful- but if the intimacy isn’t right, if you don’t feel like you’re looking at your best friend and soulmate- the person who gives time a pause, the one who your heart is devoted to- it means nothing. What are your needs and wants? What do you value the most? What are you missing or aren’t giving or receiving? That is the real question. Balance- is key. But LOVE overpowers all. Love isn’t based on emotion- it is a simple sacrifice- to be there, to stay there, to change, to grow, to be accountable. And that leads to better intimacy AND better success in all ways. We can’t keep relying on if someone feels good to our hearts or if someone has x amount of money- it’s not even about just one or the other- both are wanted and both should be shown in ways where it is needed in every phase of a relationship. When one is down and out- you should be the one there to provide what’s needed. If one needs more effort - a sacrifice to do better and be better- that should happen without procrastinating, period. It’s all about COMMITMENT AND SACRIFICE. THAT IS LOVE. Period.
The ultimate question is: “what are we willing to sacrifice to each other to express our love?”
the most healthiest relationships don’t just come to you. it is a cultivation process. as nice or sweet or kind as someone may be, there will always be a flaw. flaws that may so happen to not mesh with your flaws and it is sooo important to have those hard heart-to-heart talks, to be assertive in how you feel, to also understand and not just listen. the reality is- healthy relationships are simply hard work; hard work and discipline just like anything else. toxicity in relationships is really just a bunch of immaturity and uncontrolled emotions. if you take the time to think, learn your boundaries and triggers, be accountable, and work towards a beautiful life- that is where “health” starts in ALL of your relationships. the same way we value health in our bodies, we must also value health in our minds- which is more important than any protein shake or gym session you can attain. mindfulness, wellness, emotional intelligence- all the things needed for a great relationship with yourself and others.
